You Have Been Through the Fire, Together you Got This….Marriages and Mold.
You’re Not Alone — You’re a Team, and You Will Overcome This
Mold has a way of shaking your life at its foundation — physically, emotionally, financially, and relationally. It can test even the strongest marriages. If you're feeling worn down, exhausted, or misunderstood, you're not alone. But hear this clearly: do not let mold take your marriage too.
Your health, your children’s health, and your finances may have suffered — but your relationship doesn’t have to. In fact, this can become a defining moment where you draw closer together. One of the most important things to remind yourselves right now is this: none of this is your fault.
If you had known the truth about mold earlier — how differently it affects people, how mainstream medicine often fails to recognize it — things might have looked different. But you didn’t fail. The system failed you. Doctors, builders, landlords, insurers… so many have fallen short. But your spouse is not the enemy.
It’s easy to point fingers when answers are scarce and stress is high. But this is the time to return to your vows — to stand side-by-side, hand-in-hand, the way you envisioned on your wedding day. You’re stronger together.
People outside of your experience may not understand what you’ve been through. That can feel isolating. But isolation loses its grip when you have each other. That’s why setting boundaries is vital — especially with those who dismiss your experience or make you question what you know to be true. You don’t owe anyone proof. You know what you’ve lived through.
You may be judged unfairly. We once believed the lie that mold was “no big deal.” Many do, until they experience the devastating truth firsthand. You’re not crazy. You’re not exaggerating. You’re waking up to a reality many don’t yet see.
And if you’re wondering why mold illness is so misunderstood, ask yourself:
Who benefits when families stay sick and silent?
Who wins when builders or landlords escape responsibility through fine print?
Why did insurance companies cap or eliminate mold coverage?
Why does mold coverage cost thousands if it's supposedly "not a big deal"?
This may sound like conspiracy theories. I know. But, look into this and determine for yourself if they’re inconvenient truths the system has swept under the rug — while you and your family bear the cost.
But now you know better. And with knowledge comes power. Not blame, not shame — power.
So take each other’s hand and step forward. Yes, this chapter has been painful — perhaps the hardest yet. But it is only a chapter. It is not the end of your story. From here, you get to rebuild — stronger, wiser, and more united than ever before.
You’ve been through the fire. But you’re still here. And together, you’ve got this.
Written By: Emily Rachal / Mother to Malachi, President & Founder of Malachi’s Message Foundation and Vice President of Texas Mold Inspectors.
